Did you hear about...?!?!

As a military wife with my husband deployed I can promise you that I don't listen or watch the news... I almost go out of my way to not hear about things... and honestly, it's tough. It's not like I'm naive to things- I know what's going on- I'm not THAT naive and "out of the loop"... I just choose not to really focus on what's going on. I've heard is said that "there is a lot I don't know that I wish I did; but there is a lot I do know that I wish I didn't"- this is so true, more so now in my life than ever. Everyday I hear about something that happens "over there" that I wish I didn't know... I can't even tell you how my heart sinks whenever I hear about someone who has given the ultimate sacrifice... the person who was killed had a family- they were someone's son, possibly a husband, possibly a father... but either way they knew someone who cared about them more than they will ever know. Someone back here got the worst news possible, and it tears me apart like any other military wife because even if we don't know them, we do "know them"- we can relate to them in many ways most people will never know. Even if I hear about something that happens, such as Taliban escaping, it terrifies me... just like anyone else back home waiting for their loved one. So, whenever I have someone (who truly means well, I know) ask me if I've heard about "this" happening... "this" meaning something crazy/terrible/nuts that has happened over there it irritates me... then, when I say "no" they reply with, "oh, well then in that case, don't worry"... oh ok, thanks for the tip- I won't worry... I'll just pretend I didn't hear what you just asked/told me... I know people mean well and are just asking, but I've had a lot of people ask me what they can do to help military spouses in the "civilian world"- one piece of advice- NEVER ask if someone has heard about something that has happened "over there"- our answer will either be A. NO, we haven't- thanks for telling us, now I have THAT to think about, or B. Yes, I have heard about that- thanks for the REMINDER. Really guys, come on, help us out- please, please, please just don't bring up the news with us- we DO know more than you think regardless of how much/little news we watch/hear. We are doing whatever we can to get through a year without our loved ones right next to us... ALL you have to do is tell us that you're praying for our soldier and we're completely content with life. Really... it's that easy, just tell us "we're praying for them"... no news, no details, no questions... thanks :)